More and more marriages fail everyday and the true casualties are the children.Â Unfortunately, the very issues that caused the divorce often get in the way of successful co-parenting.Â No one knows this better than author Melinda Roberts.Â Melinda and her ex-husband had the typical ups and downs and in the process found a formula that worked for them.Â This book is the result of what they both learned and includes stories and advice from others who went down the same path.
This book captivated me from the beginning starting with the foreword by Heather Armstrong and kept me reading to the very end.Â Heather shared her story of being a child of divorce from her perspective as an adult who is going through the very same thing with her children.
There is lots of great advice in this book but my absolute favorite was the quote from Melindaâ€™s daughter who was ten at the time.Â She said “When you tell your kids you’re getting divorced,Â hand them cupcakes first.”Â A wise person knows that cupcakes make everything better!
The driving message of this book is that you can have a good parenting relationship with your ex-partner so long as you put the children first.Â This book tells you what you need to know to make this happen and Melinda does it with honesty and humor.Â She includes several pages of resources for readers who need additional help.
In part IV Melinda says â€œYour children are watching and learning how to behave in a crisis: with integrity or deceit; grace or malice.Â Choose wisely and use your powers for good.â€ This is great advice that I wish Iâ€™d been given when I was going through a similar situation.Â I canâ€™t help but think that this book would make an excellent present for someone you know who needs it.Â The publisher offers a free excerpt atÂ http://42rules.com/book/42-rules-for-divorcing-with-children.