“You can’t dance at all the weddings” says Elaine Richman’s mother as she steers her daughter to the safety and security of a good marriage. And “love will follow.”
Elaine’s mother has worked hard to support her daughter’s dreams and aspirations, but sickness lends an urgency to the future, and pressure lends an urgency to Elaine’s decision—will she marry safe David or rush to uncertainty with Jake?
Mother’s promise proves right and love, though challenged, does indeed grow between husband and wife. But it’s a pale and sheltered love, dreams deserted, self-fulfillment replaced with the need to see others fulfilled. When love grows flat and the steepest challenge arises, neither Elaine nor David is ready for it.
In Susan Surman’s novel Dancing at all the weddings there are different kinds of love and fulfillment, different levels of betrayal, and different choices in forgiveness. All come together in an honest and hopeful tale that spans continents and years, bringing to life the excitement of movie and stage and casting an unflinching gaze on the “five stages of a healthy divorce.” “Denial, depression, anger, acceptance and reorientation” are beautifully portrayed in Elaine’s dance across the world as she seeks a new stage to play on. In the end she learns that perhaps you can dance at all the weddings as long as you’re ready to listen to the tune.
Disclosure: I won a free copy of this book from the author and thoroughly enjoyed it. This review is my thanks.