I don't know what to do!

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I'm starting to feel very frustrated.  As most of you know, I am pregnant.  Me and my boyfriend have been together for five years and always knew we'd be together.  We haven't taken the plunge into marriage as we just were comfortable with where we were and it felt like a bit of a hassle considering both of our families live in Washington and we live in California.  And strangely enough, I've never been one to dream about fairy tail weddings.   Getting married always kind of seemed like a big pain in the you know what, although I knew that one day I wanted to do it. Anyway, we have so many plans like paying off credit cards, saving for a house, my boyfriend getting his journeyman card and all this type of stuff that getting married just added to the expenses and lists of things to do.  Granted I know our parents would help us financially, but still, it's expensive.   Anyway, now that I'm pregnant, we figured it's time to get married.  Maybe a bit sooner and a bit out of order as we would of liked, but nonetheless, it is what it is.  We love each other, want to be together, are plenty old at the age of 30 and over all we are mostly happy that we are having a child… and both sets of grandparents are, that is for sure!  But now that it's time to get married, I don't know what to do.  His sister is getting married in Vegas in October and we thought we'd stay an extra day and get married, by ourselves for the legal reasons of being married.  You know, so I can get on his insurance, have his last name and all those things that you're supposed to already be and have when you have children.  Then we thought afterwards we could just have a big reception with family and friends and just forget the wedding part of it since that part would already have been taken care of and then go on a big honeymoon down the road once I can relax and have a cocktail!  But then again I have no idea if that's what I want.  Before getting pregnant I also thought I wanted to get married on a cruise.  But now do I do that while pregnant or afterwards when I'm already with child or just forget it all together?  Do I skip Vegas and have a decent wedding, in front of everybody and in a real church?  But then again, I don't want to be all fat and pregnant in my pics.  I don't know, this isn't really how I planned any of this. I feel like I'm being screwed out of a lot of things.  I just always thought things would go in order and so far in my life they have…until now.  I just feel like I'm running out of time on figuring out what to do and living in California and having the holidays and his sisters wedding right in the middle of all this is no help.  How do I fit a baby shower a wedding shower and x-mas into the ten days I'll be up for the holidays? I don't know, it's just all starting to get to me.  I want things to go right or proper and frankly I think that idea is down the toilet.  Anyway, I just wanted to vent.  Maybe if anybody has had a child who has been through this or has been in this situation themselves, when it's all said and done, does it really even matter anyway?  Do we even remember much of our wedding?  Am I making to big of a deal wanting it to go perfect or as perfect as I can make it given the circumstances? What's really important here? 

 

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