My family split over mission trip! Help!

My family is split right down the middle over a mission trip to Africa. My granddaughter is 18-years-old. She has not graduated high school nor does she have a job. She says she has a life’s dream to go on a mission trip to Africa. She also needs 3,000 dollars which she wants from me and other family members.

I say, no. I don’t have a heart for foreign missions, and if her mother and father can’t afford to send her, why should I. My other daughter and son both refused. I am being blamed for their refusal. My granddaughter is angry with me, and my one daughter, her mother, agrees with her.

They called me selfish. That hurt. My reasons for not helping her go on the trip is her safety. If something happens, I will put up money to bring her home safely, but I will put a dime toward her trip. They claim God is sending her. Well, God did not give me the memo.

I am furious that they called me selfish. I have given clothing, shoes, furniture and cars in the support of this little family and now, because I don’t want to support her on this mission trip, I get called selfish.

My other children all agree with me. They refuse to help, but the paternal side, who have done little to nothing to support this family, now, is donating 1500 dollars to the mission trip, so they are the godly side of the family.

I discussed my concerns and the fact I have been treated disrespectfully. My daughter cried and told me I will not get a blessing from God if I don’t support my granddaughter. I countered with I have lots of blessings and this blessing I don’t want if it means that my granddaughter has to go to a foreign country half a world away.

As a former teacher in a Christian school, I have run into this problem before. I have never supported foreign missions. I am afraid for my children. This is not an adult. Her life dream? Is 18 old enough to be considered a life with a dream. She’s a baby.


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I am the mother of 3 grown children. I adopted my fourth. Then God gave me 7 grandchildren. I thought how wonderful can life be. Then, my youngest married daughter said, "Mom I'm pregnant. How wonderful is this? Grandbaby #8 turned out to be grandbabies

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