Practically every person who is too heavy has met at least one weight bully in their life. That’s the person who has no idea what it’s like to be considered larger than the “average” person and proceeds to tell them that they should lose some weight, for their own good, of course.
Here’s a surprise to all those people who have the audacity to interfere in another’s personal business; heavy people know they might be large, and they do not need some know-it-all to tell them what to do!
Take the story of Wisconsin news anchor Jennifer Livingston. When she received an email from a viewer criticizing her weight, she didn’t think too much of it. But then she thought about her daughters, other children, and viewers who might not be as emotionally strong as she is.
ABC Action News reports that on Tuesday, Livingston responded with a 4-minute segment on WKBT-TV in La Crosse, calling the man a bully. She said, among other things, that viewers should not allow such people to define their self-worth.
The viewer who sent the email, Kenneth Krause, wrote that he “was surprised to see her physical condition hadn’t improved for years and hopes that Livingston doesn’t consider herself a suitable example for young people, especially girls.” Of course, this know-it-all claims that his emails have nothing to do with bullying. It’s not? Then why is he pushing his opinion on Livingston? Was he asked for it? Is any of this his business?
“It’s not what this one particular man said to me,” Livingston said. “It’s the reaction that what I am saying back to him and bullies everywhere.”
In his first email to Livingston, Krause wrote that “obesity is one of the worst choices a person can make,” then told Livingston to “reconsider your responsibility to present and promote a healthy lifestyle.”
Here’s another news flash for you, Mr. Krause, obesity is not a choice! As if overweight people enjoy walking down a street, minding their own business and hearing insults flung at them by total strangers, being discriminated against because of what they look like, having people believe that they’re obligated to send unwanted emails to others, and worse, claiming that they’re criticizing obese people to help them get healthier. All of this is nothing more than an excuse to make themselves feel better by belittling someone else.
Livingston acknowledged she was overweight, but said the man’s words were cruel. “To all of the children out there who feel lost, who are struggling with your weight, with the color of your skin, your sexual preference, your disability, even the acne on your face, listen to me right now: Do not let your self-worth be defined by bullies.”
For every weight bully out there, take a long look in the mirror. Chances are very good that there are quite a few things that are far from perfect. One day the tables will be reversed, and the bully will be bullied by a person who thinks they are socially obligated to do so.